Of the four possibilities as to why Peggy is in love with me,
numbers 3 and 4 are more relevant to all of us than they may appear. All
of us are occasionally attracted to people we've seen on television or
the Internet, or we become attracted to certain concepts, such as becoming
rich, or a corporate executive, or an Olympic athlete.
Everybody seems to do this, so we can't say that there is something
"wrong" with it, but there are differences between us, and we need to pass
judgment on when a person is "normal",
and when they have crossed the line into the "psychotic".
For example, we all have an attraction to money and fame, but when does
that attraction become a psychotic craving
rather than a normal desire?
|Peggy is certain that when she
meets me, I will be as much in love with her as she is with me, and we
will both be in ecstasy. How can she be so certain that we're going to
be so incredibly in love with each other? Is her attraction to me "normal"?
Or is it the type of psychotic craving that Daniel Lynch had for Katie
Children are often 100% certain that they will be incredibly happy if
they can get a particular toy or product, and that they will be miserable
if they don't get that toy, but as we grow up, we discover that we
don't need any particular product to be happy. Or, I should
say, some adults learn this lesson,
whereas other adults continue making the false assumption that they must
have a particular job, spouse, or product in order to be happy.
“I need that toy!
I can't live without it!
Give it to me!”
Unhappy people have extreme
attractions to things
From my casual observations of people, the adults who are most
likely to insist that they must have something in particular, or who have
extreme cravings, are those who are suffering from some type of mental
problem that keeps them in a state of perpetual misery, but
they don't realize, or they refuse to consider, that their misery is coming
from within their own mind. Their misery may be due to their terrible diet,
or injuries to their brain, or genetic defects in their brain or body.
Regardless of why these people are miserable, their perpetual
state of unhappiness causes them to constantly
look for something to make themselves feel better. And they
are so desperate to be happy that they often convince themselves that they
will experience ecstasy if can achieve their latest goal.
The most common assumption that we make in regards to happiness
is that money will make us happy. We
are fascinated by material items, and we get momentary pleasure when we
acquire items, and so we often fantasize about money. When does this attraction
to money become psychotic? That is not an easy question to answer,
except for extreme cases, such as people who are making "plenty" of money,
but who want more money so badly that they will commit crimes to get more
of it, or they will marry people who are wealthy simply to get access to
People who are perpetually unhappy will experience momentary pleasure
when they acquire some money, but soon they will return to their miserable
condition, so they'll need more money.
This would explain why some people, no matter how much money they get,
are never satisfied.
Some people notice that they feel better when they use alcohol or other
drugs, or by turning music up to very high volume levels, and so they may
engage in those activities over and over. They assume that their extreme
use of drugs or loud music is "fun", but I think these people are suffering
from some problem that is keeping them in a state of unhappiness, and the
drugs and loud music are helping to mask their misery.
Some people notice that they feel better when they do extremely dangerous
activities or sports, and so they do those activities over and over under
the assumption that the activities are fun and exciting, but I suspect
those extreme activities make them feel better only because they have to
concentrate so much on the activity that they become less aware of their
misery. And when they survive a dangerous activity, they experience some
momentary pleasure, and so they want to do it again in order to continue
stimulating themselves with those pleasant feelings. I think they are suffering
from some type of problem that is keeping them in a state of misery, and
they are doing these extreme activities over and over in order to bring
some momentary pleasure into their miserable lives.
The point I'm trying to make is that even though we all have the same
desires, we need to pass judgment on when a person is behaving in an "abnormal"
manner. We all want the same things in life, such as food, a spouse, attention,
and money, but we want these things to different extents. Some people want
these things so badly that they will cheat, lie, and kill to get them.
We have to decide when a person is normal, and when he is psychotic and
dangerous. And we must be especially critical of people we put into leadership
When a person is perpetually miserable, his life will be an
eternal quest for happiness. Nothing will ever satisfy him. No matter how
much money he gets, it won't be enough to make him happy. No matter how
big his house is, it won't be large enough. No matter how famous he becomes,
he won't be famous enough. He will always be unhappy. He will always be
struggling for more than he has. He may as well chase
after a rainbow.
Leaders should be happy;
not chasing rainbows
Consider how this concept may apply to Peggy Brabender. She insists
that she is deeply in love with me, but it's possible that she's suffering
from some sort of mental disorder that is keeping her in a perpetual
state of misery, and she may be fantasizing that her misery
will end when she meets her knight in shining armor. And she may have assumed
that I am that knight, and so she fantasizes about being in perpetual ecstasy
when we are together.
Peggy's description of her life makes it seem like she is a typical
American. She has a home, husband, son, food, an automobile, etc. She doesn't
complain about her husband, and her son is apparently well behaved. She
told me that her husband was just a friend,
and that she gets bored at her home,
but is that a sensible reason for a mother to abandon her husband and child,
and while she is still married? There
are women all over the world who would be happy to trade places with her.
So why does she want to abandon what seems to be a normal, acceptable family?
Does she really love me that much?
If Peggy is suffering from some type of mental illness that keeps her
in a perpetual state of misery, then she will be excited to meet me, but
after a while her misery will return, and then she will repeat the cycle
of searching for happiness. I find it interesting that she complained to
me that her relatives and former friends don't want anything to do
with her. She claims that the Jews gave her a bad image, but it's possible
that everybody avoids her because they consider her to be
I think a lot of people who struggle to be rich and famous,
or who struggle to get into top leadership positions, are perpetually unhappy,
probably due to mental illness. I think they are searching for relief from
their misery, and they have idiotic fantasies that they will become happy
once they acquire wealth, fame, or that magic substance they refer to as
|Our leaders don't have any intelligent opinions about life, and they
don't seem to be interested in society. Rather, they wanted to be leaders
because they are trying to relieve their misery. But because their misery
is coming from within them, no matter how much money they make, it's not
enough. No matter how many businesses they have control over, it's never
I think the reason they're so willing to commit crimes is that they
are desperate to relieve their misery. They are like a heroin
addict who will do just about anything to get his drug.
When we select leaders, we have to pass judgment on whether he wants
be a leader because he truly has an interest in helping society, or if
he is unhappy and is assuming that by becoming a leader, he will find happiness.
We need leaders who are naturally happy and healthy. We have to avoid the
lunatics who are chasing rainbows.
“All I need is more fame and money, and then I'll be so very happy!”
We don't have to live among
Katie Piper was not critical of Daniel Lynch because humans
were not designed to be suspicious of our potential friends and spouses.
Our emotions assume that we can trust the people we live with. Why should
we force ourselves to be suspicious of everybody? Why should children be
taught to be frightened of strangers? Why should women be taught how to
defend themselves from rapists? Why should we have to protect our house
from burglary? Why should we have to worry about whether a business is
going to cheat us? Why should we live among people who are dangerous, anti-social,
or destructive? Why should we live among people who are miserable, depressed,
nasty, or sarcastic?
We don't have to live among freaks! There's no law in this universe
that requires that all people be mixed together at random. We can put the
criminals, parasites, and weirdos in their own cities, and we can sterilize
them. We don't owe them anything! They
should be grateful that they are alive!
prehistoric times, they would have been murdered, or they would have been
pushed out of society, which would have resulted in their eventual death.